Masculine and Feminine in Balance

“My internal masculine and feminine selves show respect and appreciation for each other.”

Daily Thought for Tuesday, March 10, 2009
by Master Djwhal Khul

The yin and the yang in balance and harmony with each other, is the key to great health. The yin, the feminine, being the stillness, the resting, the quiet, is utterly important for our physical, mental and emotional rejuvenation. It’s about being present with ourselves, and going within to hear that “still, small voice”, which sometimes isn’t so small, especially the longer we ignore it. The feminine is our intuitive aspect, the receptivity of the Divine. Often in our society, and maybe many others, people do not go to this place of stillness, of receptivity, of rejuvenation so that they can have the energy they need for the yang, or masculine aspects of their lives: the activity, the expression, the action, the sharing with others, the creativity. If there is too much doing, and not enough being, then there is imbalance.

I find this often in my practice, and it can be felt in a person’s pulses. This can result in taking action where the action may not be so Divinely inspired and not coming from the most heart-centered place possible, thus causing more problems than creative solutions.   The opposite is also seen in practice and in life. Where there’s plenty of stillness and intuition coming through, but no action being taken upon it.  This can lead to stagnation and illness, both physical and emotional.  I often feel in the pulses of my patients an oppressive energy that weighs down the vibrancy of the true pulse.  I translate this into the energy of not taking action on something that needs taking action. The patient often knows what it is because they are so intuitive, and that’s not where the energy is stuck.  Sometimes they do not know because the energy is so stuck, and once it gets flowing again through their taking action in some part of their lives, then life overall begins to flow and they can make good, heart-centered decisions.  

The perfect balance and flow is when the Divinely guided intuitive “hit” comes through, and we can express it and take action on it immediately. No questioning “what if, yeah but, if only…” just take action. Then we are in the flow of Life and this is the masculine taking action, respecting the feminine intuition and stillness. It is also the feminine appreciating the ability of the masculine to take action.

There is much to be appreciated about the masculine and feminine being in good communication and mutually respecting each others’ importance. This can require a fair amount of trust.  Trust that our intuitive hits are truly coming from a higher (or heart) place, and trusting that our taking action is for our greatest good.  I think it’s also about life being a place where we can try these things, lean into them, and see where they take us.  This may seem risky, especially at first, but the more the inner masculine and feminine cooperate the more easily life flows.  

I have observed and experienced, this is often, or maybe even always, demonstrated through our relationships. We attract those who provide balance for us. For example, when I was young and newly married, I was the ultimate yin, or feminine and nurturing , aspect with very little of the masculine; whereas, my husband at the time was the epitomy of the masculine, the breadwinner, the decision-maker, As I grew older, and more into myself embracing more of my masculine side, which for me meant expressing my unique self, and taking action on those things that were important to me, this gave my husband at the time an opportunity to look at and embrace the qualities of his feminine and receptive, nurturing side so that we could once again balance each other at this new level.

Unfortunately, my masculine appeared to be too challenging for his hidden feminine, and at the time he wasn’t willing to go there, so instead of growing together, we grew apart. I took my new level of feminine/masculine balance, or relative imbalance, out into the world of relationship, with many results.   There have been many shifts and changes over the years with my goal of being more balanced in my feminine and masculine aspects, and honoring both.  I feel I’ve gotten myself to a good place.  I am able to live an intuitive life, and can take action or express myself accordingly.  I don’t know what this means relationship-wise, since I am not currently in one that will mirror my level of balance of my inner feminine and masculine, but I look forward to finding out and seeing where my inner feminine and masculine might need more attention in mutual respect and appreciation.   Many Blessings to All of You, You Wonderful Beings of the Inner Feminine and Masculine!  

(Within two months of writing this in March 2009, I met my second husband, who also presented as balanced feminine/masculine, confirming, at the time, my awareness.)

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8-8 Lion’s Gate

Dream 8-8-2019: Very brief dream, a beautiful man with very short medium-colored hair approached and brought his very familiar essence and face toward mine. As he leaned his forehead against mine I knew without a doubt, he knew me inside and out, my soul, my being, and vice versa. We connected through our eyes and our entire beings as he relayed his message to me through our minds…

“I’m coming soon”.

Life and death are one thread, the same line viewed from different sides.

Lao Tzu

Lair O’ the Bear Park Encounter 8-8-08 at 8:08:08am

I was compelled to hike one of my favorite trails not far out of the city boundaries. I’ve hiked this gentle river-side trail for years since I’d inadvertently and delightfully rediscovered it on my middle son’s first grade field trip in 1996.

Years prior, as a 7 year old child myself, visting my dad in the Denver area from Washington state where I lived with my mother and brother. I’d been on a company picnic with my father and my brother at Little Park, an adjunct to Lair O’ the Bear. It was a very nice memory, including winning the 3-legged race with my head-shorter brother, and as we exited the park up toward the street I remember gazing through the rearview window as the pleasant scene disappeared with the old watering hole building etched on my memory. After my mother moved us to Colorado in 1976, I continually searched for that park. It took me 20 years to find it again!

Once rediscovered, Lair O’ the Bear became my “go to” hike for those many years, in every season, every type of weather, so it was a natural place to want to be on 8-8-08 at 8:08am. I was not aware of the astrological “Lion’s Gate” significance at that time. I parked the car in the lot at the Little Park entrance at 8am, and began my walking journey toward Lair O’ the Bear park. Eight minutes later I turned a corner and came face to face with a big beautiful buck with large dark eyes, piercing straight to my soul. We held our gaze for several minutes and he transmited his gentle energy, which was soothing. It felt I could stand there forever in this buck’s gaze. Finally I thanked him for his presence asked him if he’d let me by to continue my hike. He hopped off the trail a few feet and turned toward it and watched me walk by.

Later, as I was returning along the same path back to my car, I came to the same location where I’d encountered the buck, and instead there was a doe and three more young deer on the path. They quickly cleared the way for me to pass.

(Deer Totem By Elena Harris at

“The meanings associated with the deer combine both (feminine) soft, gentle qualities with (masculine) strength and determination:

  • Gentleness
  • Ability to move through life and obstacles with grace
  • Being in touch with inner child, innocence
  • Being sensitive and intuitive
  • Vigilance, ability to change directions quickly
  • Magical ability to regenerate, being in touch with life’s mysteries”

By 2008 I had learned much about myself through healing relationship with myself, with others, with my inner child, with a greater ability to move through life with Grace, becoming more and more intuitive and balanced with my own feminine and masculine energies, all in the hope, focus and goal of meeting my next partner after my first divorce in 2000.

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